I am thrilled to be able to have my hubby home this year for the 4th of July! It is the first time that he has had the holiday off in over 6 years! I have been so excited I have not been able to stop thinking about all of the fun things we can do to celebrate the spectacular holiday. The 4th of July is one of the biggest and most important holidays celebrated in the USA, after all it is Americas Independence Day. We celebrate the Freedom of the country through fun, family filled celebration and Fireworks! Roughly $600 million are spent every year on the magnificent fireworks display, it is quite something to see. The more excited I got at the thought of having my hubby home, the more I thought about those two words that are so dear to the 4th of July…Freedom and Fireworks and how they fit so beautifully in marriage!
Freedom in Marriage!
Is Freedom a word that comes to your mind when you think of marriage? You might say that freedom is a strange word to be attached to marriage. Usually it is the opposite right? When people talk about marriage a lot of the time it has a negative connotation with phrases and words such as, “ball and chain”, “boring” and “duty”!
Here are three reasons why and where I see “Freedom” in Marriage:
1. Freedom to Love Each Other as ONE!
“And the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” – Mark 10:8
When you get married you become one flesh with your husband. This is one of the most precious days of your life, husband and wife come together as one. As one you are able to freely express, experience and share greater intimacy with each other. This part of marriage is only shared between you and your husband and should be celebrated, explored, sought after and treasured! Sexual intimacy is vitally important in marriage and having the freedom to express and communicate that towards your husband is something that should be celebrated and enjoyed every day!
2. Freedom to Love Your Spouse Greater than Yourself!
Marriage brings two imperfect people together and allows for the opportunity to work on loving the other greater than themselves. You have to put your own selfishness aside and put the other person first. The marriage relationship should be selfless on both sides. Think of the dance the Tango, it takes two people, but you create one fluid movement. It might take hard work, sacrifice, some humble pie, laughter and maybe some pain, but it creates something beautiful through hard work and time. There is freedom and beauty in loving your spouse greater than yourself!
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above ourselves.” – Philippians 2:3
3. Freedom for Greater Intimacy!
Marriage allows for greater emotional intimacy with your husband. As you go through life together the decisions and prayers become of greater value. Intimacy takes hard work from both people and it is a daily choice.
Fireworks in Marriage!
The common phrase…”keeping the fire alive” or “keeping the spark alive” is often used when referring to marriage and sexual intimacy. This is often one of the first things to be neglected in a marriage and I believe so vitally important for both yourself and your husband. When you go watch the fireworks show, do you want to see something that is fizzling out? God designed sex between a husband and a wife to be Sizzling, Spectacular, Beautiful, Awe Inspiring and Treasured!
Here are three reasons why and where I see “Fireworks” in Marriage:
1. Fireworks Need Communication
Ok, silly example. but it rings true…Just as the men and women spend time planning and communicating about the fireworks set up, order and display; so should the communication between you and your husband remain constant, vibrant and true. Most of us dreamed of the idea of marrying our best friend, right? Why does that change for so many? Your husband knows you better than anyone else and vis versa, but this also takes work. Daily you need to choose to communicate, open your heart, truly listen, be honest and loving to your husband. Keep the Fireworks alive by keeping the communication alive!
Gentlemen, a little tip for you… The biggest turn on for a woman is her mind! Talk to her through out the day. Never stop showering your wife with loving compliments and gratitude! “My dove in the clefts of the rock,in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face,let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet,and your face is lovely.Catch for us the foxes,the little foxes that ruin the vineyards,our vineyards that are in bloom.” – Song of Solomon 2:14-15
2. Fireworks on Dates
Timing is not always everything and we are not always going to want to get dressed up, make the effort to leave the house or even just choosing to have a date night at home. “Date Nights” are important for your marriage! Going on consistent “Date Nights” with your husband keeps the fireworks alive and sparkling. It really isn’t about what you are doing together, but that you are choosing to make each other a priority alone together with no other distractions. The fun things just help to bring the laughter, communication and spark between the two of you. There will always be an excuse, please please I implore you, make time to have “Date Nights” together. “You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride;you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes,with one jewel of your necklace.How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride!How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice!” – Song of Solomon 4:9-10
3. Fireworks in the Bedroom
Sex is vitally important to the health of your marriage and should not be neglected in your marriage. Sexual intimacy connects you and your husband in a way that nothing else will. No, it is not just for your husband! Sex connects you to him and emotionally effects you. Keep the fireworks spectacular and exciting in your marriage! Be adventurous! Always Communicate and Pray Together! Remember this again is a choice! Choose to make this a priority in your marriage! “Your breasts are like two fawns,like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies.Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain of myrrh and to the hill of incense.You are altogether beautiful, my darling;there is no flaw in you.” – Song of Solomon 4:5-7
See Freedom and Fireworks in your marriage might come easily and naturally in the beginning, but it will continue too and always take effort and hard work for both yourself and your husband! When you choose to find Freedom and Fireworks together it will be Spectacular, Treasured, Beautiful and worth Celebrating every day!
Hope you all have a fantastic 4th of July!
Lots of Love,